Monday, March 12, 2012

Time To Change... Accept Acceptance, Reject Rejection

We live in a world constantly rejecting it. Look around - we reject almost everything around us! Rejecting, rejecting and rejecting! In fact, rejection has become the root cause of all our displeasure, pain, and insanity. We reject our imperfections, our less than perfect bodies, our kids who can’t get 100/100 in every subject, our spouse who seems too self-centred, our politicians who are too corrupt, our society which is inherently flawed, and our bosses who are too insensitive! In short we keep rejecting every other thing in life!

If I could change one thing around me – I’d make people “accept” themselves and their surroundings. 

Accept acceptance. Reject rejection.
"You as much as anyone else in the world deserve your love and affection." ~ Buddha
Accept yourself - not just the good and the beautiful component, but every bit of yourself - the good, the bad and even the ugly. What you keep discarding merely keeps on going brawny. Accept the petite cunningness in your character as much as you accept your childhood innocence.

Your body is a temple for your soul. 

Accept your body - too-thin, too-fat, too-short, too-tall, too-plump, and too-skinny. Whatever it is – it is partly your responsibility and partly your genes. Celebrate the body but first accept that you want to change it for better. The perfect gym-toned body with perfect figure can only give you happiness if you first accept the body as the temple you live in. Your body is a gift to yourself.

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” 
― Albert Einstein
Accept your kids - they have not been sent to earth to further your goals and desires or to achieve your dreams. They are not corporate acquisitions from which you expect and demand high performance and soaring returns on the shareholder’s value. They are little human beings of infinite possibilities and dreams. Don’t make a fish climb a tree nor ask an elephant to catch up with a cheetah!

Accept your friends - they may have taken not-so-good decisions, they might have wronged you a few times, but they’re only human... they have their own shortcomings and follies. Accept them like they have accepted you and then only can you realise the potent force of friendship and acceptance.

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.

Accept your rejections how many times were you left heart-broken, teary eyed by your love? Someone didn't accept you in their lives, rejected you. Someone threw you out of their lives after a seemingly prefect paradise relationship. Accept the rejection which may or may not have been fault of yours but it did happen and it can’t be changed. Only by accepting can you transcend it.

The best way to cheer yourself is to cheer somebody else up.

Accept your responsibilities - towards yourself, your spouse, your parents, your country and finally to earth and humanity - in reverse order.

Love is a better master than duty.

Accept your spouse - he/she is one you have already accepted to your intimate core and in turn opened yourself for wounds and scars which can take eons to heal. Only by accepting the other person in all his/her profundity, complexity and darkness can you transform him/her and transcend the shortcomings he/she harbours deep in his/her psyche.

Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.

Accept the society - it is what it is. It is because of the actions, inactions, choices of people like you and me who constitute it. It is a reflection of our collective consciousness. If it seems mad to you it is just reflecting collective madness of everyone including us. If it’s evil and corrupt it is because too many of us are evil or silent... indifferent and scared to fight against injustice.

And last but not the least…

“The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.” 
 Albert Einstein

Accept women - it’s strange to live in a country that worships Goddess Lakshmi for money and prosperity but burns its wives and daughters-in-laws in the name of dowry. We worship Goddess Durga but liken the girl child to an ugly demon, thus slaughtering it in the womb itself. We rape our own women! We adore Sita’s chastity and end up hanging our clothes in some dirty brothel! Even though we all came from a woman, we end up being a husband torturing our wives - beating them, killing them slowly... mentally, spiritually, psychologically and physically. We all were inside the womb of a woman for nine months and came from her - then why this anger and hatred against something that God gifted the power to create something as beautiful as life itself?

If I could change one thing around - rejection would be it.

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subhorup dasgupta said...

Congratulations for a really wonderful and inspiring post. Rejection, of self and others, is truly one of the greatest obstacles to happiness and success. The pics with the post are also very good, and are obviously your work . Wish you all the best for the contest too.

Parv Kaushik said...

thank you so much for the generous praise sir!! yes you are right the pics and the work are my own work.. thank you for your kind wishes!!!

Priya said...

That is an awesome post from you Parv. Good one. Accepting as who we are makes us feel comfortable with
the outside world and think positive.

Rejection happens everywhere right from childhood if it is a boy or a girl isn't it. It matters with the mind and heart not to get lost with someone's words but live within as who you are.

Parv Kaushik said...

@priya m so exited to hear from you after such a looong tym!! hope you are doing good!! thank you for the admiration :)

yes you are indeed correct.. it happens right from the cradle and right to the grave.. if we can just tone down the volume of the world our heart and mind shall be at peace!!

Maggie said...

Hey Parv good post! you have put a lot of thought into it :)
Acceptance of others is mostly a problem because of unhappy they make us, sadly we are creatures of huge double standards and that i think is the cause of why we reject others. nothing they do is ever good enough.
about the self, i think its difficult to openly endorse who or what we have become (against the conventional standards of society).

Parv Kaushik said...

@maggie thank you so muchh :)

yess u r right about others.. but if we could accept othrs with thr shortcomings in sensitivity and character.. we can overcome the hurt caused by thm more easily..

regarding self.. if we could accept ourselves as we are we would all be enlightened ones i guess!!!